People are often shocked when I tell them I’m married. Like, shocked.
Although, with the initial question, I can definitely see where they’re coming from. I could easily pass for 17.
It’s so lame.
The one person who really seems to get it is my boss, oddly enough. Although he was at first taken aback by my young age and diamond-clad ring finger, he said “Well, I wish I knew who I had wanted to spend my life with when I was that young. I wish I had met my wife sooner.”
Exactly people. That sums it up. Come on guys, I’m only 21 and I don’t have to waste my time hanging out at bars attempting to get someone to like me! That sounds awful and exhausting! Instead, I get to spend my time at home, cuddling in my yoga pants (or no pants because, come on, this is marriage) with someone who truly loves me, cares about me, and provides for me. I am loved, I am safe, and I am appreciated.
Be happy for me, it’s the greatest thing in the world!
Plus, given that we are high school sweethearts, we actually waited a while. I had been out of high school 3 years and Kurtis had been out 4 by the time we got married.
The other day I had the typical encounter with someone finding out I was married and freaking out about it.
“What? Hold old are you?”
“I’m 21, almost 22”
“Well, 22 isn’t much better!”
Okay, yeah, point taken. That was a dumb thing to say. 22 is only 12 months older than 21, but when exactly will I be the set age for people to stop being shocked? 24? 27? 30?
I literally deal with this a couple of times a week.
I feel like people look down on me sometimes because of it and I refuse to let them make me feel that way. This is the greatest thing in the world. The greatest blessing is to love and be loved in return. I’m not sorry that I settled down in my 20’s, I’m not sorry we still live in our hometown, and I’m not sorry that I share my life with the person I love most in the world.
People want to know if I feel like I missed out on anything. Because obviously since I’m married I couldn’t possibly travel, or go to concerts, or have fun. Not only could I do all that, but I get to do it with Kurtis by my side. Even if we hadn’t gotten married and were still dating, I wouldn’t want to travel Europe, or go to an awesome concert without him.
Pretty much all you need to know:
I don’t want to experience anything if Kurtis isn’t there to experience it with me.
Best friends for life. Literally.